Cheat

I believe majority of us does not want to be cheated by their spouse or partner. But what it means to be cheated? Why they cheated in the first place?

This word also applicable to the one who cheats in their exam, games, and we have a ‘cheat meal’. I believe it is the same reason and together with ask ourselves honestly why we did such things. Let say we are playing a hand wrestling to test the power and strength of the arm. But since we had learn the trick like kind a judo trick by twisting the opponent’s hand, basically we cheated in that game. Same goes if we are under diet, why do we have “cheat meal”? In other word and simple terms, cheating is the act on betraying the value agreed between parties or dishonor our own’s value. If you value on knowledge and education we would not cheat on exam. If you value on healthy body or to losing fat, you would not cheating on meal and workout by doing a clean reps. If you value on your spouse, you would cheat on them.

But, the truth we value the grade more rather the knowledge itself. We value on having a instant pleasure gratification than having long waiting pleasure of healthy body. We value the company and attention given more than commit and discpline to your partner. I might be young, but with the will of ALLH, I have been shown and live through it to have my own experience. The biggest question I must ask is “what is my highest value” and I need to answer this question truthfully. Once we have learn what we actually value the most, then the transformation would begin and we learn the bit of truth of the self.

I’ll use myself as the example He is the only person I learn thoroughfully inside out. After transformation He ging through from a man of symbol, He was realized what He value the most, it is truth and love. But it is difficult to live truthfully honestly because truth reaps out the joy and bliss of the ignorance. That’s why love makes Him stronger to live truthfully, He love other without demanding to be loved back. Somehow He had found the well within his heart to be share to around Him. Maybe, that’s the reason why He disgust on women who wear the make up excessively or put filter in photos to look pretty because He view it as the act on lying to own self.

Since it is difficult to judge someones acts based on his true values. We associate symbols with it like marriage, a symbolic act for the value you both agreed upon, and that is the first thing both need to sort out. That’s why it is respectful when a man marry a woman he like because of ALLH and a woman marry that man because of ALLH and both genuinely living together to fulfill the same the value(religion), with the same destination(redha). Like a ship heading to the same destination and direction.