This question haunt me for more than 10 years since I aged 13. My friends know me as someone who reject dating couple as normally practiced by current generations but didn’t mean I doesn’t have female friends. How close the female friendship is, I won’t never declared we were couple. That’s how egotistical I am back then. (Egotistical doesn’t always mean being selfish, learn more about Ego)
During my teenage years, I believe almost everyone have crush toward someone and that includes me. However, I did not confess to her despite I’m afraid almost everyone in class know how I feel about her. But I always asked myself is this what I feel is puppy love? is it real love or just lust? But I realized, I know know nothing on what is love? And what it is lust? We judge it because we have little to no knowledge about both. But if we know, we could distinguish them either this is love or lust.
Thus, what is love? Love is different with likeness or attraction. We could like someone but doesn’t mean we love them. Parent who love their children still don’t like their children all the time especially when they are troublemaker, but they still love them. We can’t really explained love in language. You could tell why you love someone by rationalized your thoughts and describe what you like about them but you can’t find a word to describe when and what love is. Some culture believe love is a form of cosmic energy. As the law in thermodynamics, the energy didn’t destroyed or created, but they transfer and convert to different form. Whatever it is there is no words I could explain it but we both know how being loved is. How it feels to love others. It is so sacred which you could sacrifice for it.
How about lust. Most teenagers would confused between lust and love especially during the age of hormonal turbulence. Which lust lies to our body and brain. When I said lust, it didn’t limits to sexual desires. This includes on other desires and very common for human beings are women, children, wealth including great food and drinks, beautiful dress, outstanding career, houses and passive incomes, cars/vehicles, and luxury experience. It essence, things that gives pleasure for human beings. And it is addictive but we not live for these.
In the past, I separated between both love and lust. But I realized lust is not a bad thing even though it have potential to lead your life toward catastrophe. Love and lust is relates to each other. If you observed surrounding carefully and see within yourself, what do you do toward someone you love, either it could be your wife, children, parent or whoever. 1st) you would fight for your love, 2nd) show them your love by provide them pleasure under certain limits; 3rd) protect them from being fall into destruction
Heaven given to whom ALLH loves. But what more we could describe the heaven except it is full of pleasure. We unconsciously mimicked the creator by giving pleasure or service toward the one we love, working hard to provide them better house, enough food and nice dress, education and it could include be a reliable teammate. This also includes the pleasure of sex with your spouse with motive to satisfy spouse’s pleasures, I saw some husband struggling to fulfill that wife’s libido which why they tend to take men’s health supplements to keep their partner satisfied. I believe even your mother asked what you want to eat for for dinner. Love and lust relies to each other for human relationship as yin and yang completing each other, we are given lust merely as a tool as communication of love and to keep loving until you meet the origin of love. If you want love, be lover.
How I distinguish between love and lust? It is lust if their real agenda to pleasures themselves. It is love when they want to pleasures others because love could also means you submitting yourself to others, and there is no one greater to submit ourselves except towards The All-Loving.
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